I remember when Murray and I got to bring home our beautiful daughter for the first time as a new baby. There were lots of plans and dreams for what our life might become as a family. At the same time, we were crushed with fear and absolutely no experience of what we needed to do to keep this little person happy and thriving.
As each day passed, it was pushing through the fear of the unknown and experiencing little ‘wins’ along the way that gave us confidence to become great parents.
Whether you have a new idea for your existing business, or you want to create a brand new business for your existing life, there’s one truth that savvy entrepreneurs know without a doubt, and that is that confidence is key.
In fact, studies show that lack of confidence is the number one leading excuse for procrastination, for inaction and for failure, and we’ve all been there, and if this sounds familiar and that you consistently wish you were more confident in yourself and be able to create different results, then today will show you how to change that starting right now.
Because LACKING CONFIDENCE can be paralysing for your business . . . It’s time to get yourself back into action!
Being fearful or lacking confidence can stop you each time you get a new idea.
Confidence can stop even the most passionate entrepreneur from being truly successful on all levels.
It is a myth that as we up-level, as we get more confident and the feeling of fear that can grip you in at the beginning of your business journey will never come back. I’m here to tell you that is complete baloney!
The fear is still there no matter what level you are at in business. In fact, if you are doing something fearless, you can be assured you are performing in mediocrity.
Fear is always there, but when you’re at a higher level you’ve often learned how to manage it much better. The fear doesn’t go away, but when you take action the fear starts to dissipate. You learn to take action “in spite of”.
Always, what you want is on the ‘other side’. Once you take action and cross to the ‘other side’, you can see you’ve got the battle wounds, but they’re never as deep as you think they’re going to be.
The key message is you can’t go over it, you can’t go under it, and you’ve got to walk right into the fear to make it happen. That’s how you build confidence.
Let’s say you are in start-up mode with your business and you’re scared and your husband doesn’t believe in you. Your friends think you’re nuts to want to do this. You’ve got a great job but you know there’s this special desire to do something more.
Let’s say you take the lead. You invest in yourself and start making progress.
When you start doing the thing that you’re here to do and you don’t suppress and you take chances and they work, you get confidence. It’s important to really look at all the things you have accomplished each day and find a way to record your accomplishments daily.
When you don’t meet a goal you have set for whatever reason, goal it’s very easy to beat yourself up, and think, “Man, I didn’t accomplish what I wanted to.” But, if you were to go back and say, “Yeah, but here are a hundred things that I did achieve,” it erases that negativity.
Making mistakes is an important step! I make mistakes. We all do, and when we’re trying to avoid mistakes, we don’t realize how we’re missing the big lesson which is why you have trust there are no mistakes.
It’s like Miles Davis said, “There are no mistakes. There are only lessons.”
You have to experience it a little bit of confidence before you start getting it, which means you have to take action to start getting.
So, the best metaphor I know of is like the riding a bike metaphor where you – when you were a kid, do you remember when you were learning to ride a bike, and maybe you had that one moment that you stayed up for all of about four seconds, but then you toppled over, but in that moment, you got a glimpse of balance. You got a glimpse of your relationship with that thing on the two wheels.
Gaining unstoppable confidence is really about constantly looking at what you did accomplish. What are you triumphs? What did you accomplish today? Look at your testimonials or kind words clients or people have said to you. It’s really about feeding yourself “praise food’.
Feel the fear and do it anyway!
You can create success for yourself starting exactly where you are right now, and I’m here to help you every step of the way!
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